Improvisation has its place. When done well--think Miles Davis, Jim Carrey, Barry Sanders--it's evidence of genius. It indicates resourcefulness, an agile mind, nerve. With weight loss, however, it's just a bad idea. You simply can't ad-lib a diet. If you try--and so many of us have--you'll stumble over the same obstacles that have tripped up countless weight-loss improvisers before you.
So many of these obstacles are mental. It's not the Eskimo Pie in the freezer that's tripping you up--it's the gray matter between your ears. The success of a diet depends on how you approach it, the mind-set you adopt before you begin. The following 10 mental strategies can help fortify your resolve to follow the eating plan of your choice--whether it's Weight Watchers, Atkins or any offered in MEN'S FITNESS--and radically improve your chances for success.
1 Think before you act. When you contemplate making a radical change in your life, avoid at all costs the temptation to dive dramatically into the deep end. "Chronic behaviors are so well-established, you can't just jump immediately into action and change them," explains James Prochaska, Ph.D., author of Changing for Good. Prochaska, who has studied successful self-changers for years at the University of Rhode Island's Cancer Prevention Research Center, observes that favorable, purposeful action is nearly always preceded by a period of mental agitation, a.k.a. psyching oneself up.
Before you swap your cheesecake for a rice cake, give yourself a chance to reflect on your motivations, draw inspiration (from old pictures of yourself, magazine covers, etc.) and set achievable goals. When you're truly ready to begin, you'll know.
2 Find a good woman. Women are famously more eager to commit than men. So it comes as no surprise that research shows women are generally more eager than men to commit to weight loss. Research also indicates that men and women who begin a diet with a partner are likely to stick with it. If you have a wife or girlfriend, ask her to change her diet with you. If she replies, "Are you saying I'm fat?" let us know how you wiggle out of that one.
3 Watch yourself. Only you can be accountable to you. According to Gary Foster, Ph.D., clinical director of the Weight Loss and Eating Disorders Program at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, people who keep a written record of what they eat are much more successful in sticking with a diet than people who don't bother noting their efforts. "You don't need to get into calories, fat grams, or whatever," says Foster. "Just do enough to increase your consciousness about the foods you're eating." The key here is to develop conscious purpose, that is, become mindful of the benefits of such actions and then carry them out.
4 Climb back on that horse. Accept the following: You will return to bad habits now and again, and even gain back a pound or two. Not a problem, unless you're the type who can't avoid making too much of a little weight gain. "The only serious mistake you can make is to give up on your effort to change," says Prochaska. When you have a lapse, which is normal, don't use it as an opportunity for an excuse: The last thing you should do is blame a slow metabolism, bad genes, or anything else you think is beyond your control. Instead, enlist that gray matter of yours to figure out the genuine cause of the relapse (you let yourself get too hungry; you had junk food in the house) and don't let it happen again (eat more regularly; throw out the junk food).
5 Take the long view. Remember in junior high school when you were forced to run the mile? If you were like most guys, you started out at a full sprint only to succumb to a wobbly death march a couple of hundred yards later. Plenty of diets go the same route. Don't sprint. Begin with a few healthy modifications and proceed gradually, allowing yourself the time to become acclimated to the new behavior. The goal here is to believe that every change you make is permanent. "Small changes last. Big changes don't," says Foster.
6 Thwart temptation. In one way or another, temptation is to blame for every abandoned diet. One of the best ways to maintain more-healthful eating habits for the long haul is to fortify yourself against those situations that entice you most.
"When you're ready to make the commitment," says Prochaska, "you need to ask yourself: `When am I most likely to lapse?' The next step is to come up with concrete strategies that can help you deal with your particular weakness. If eating out presents a problem for you, ask the waiter about healthful menu options, and choose restaurants more carefully." By naming your top temptations and equipping yourself with effective ways to address them, you'll greatly improve your chances of resisting them.
7 Turn saboteurs into allies. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to eating healthfully is having a circle of friends, colleagues and family members who do not--and who may even sabotage your attempts to lose weight by razzing you about your diet.
If you recognize this hazard in advance, you can recruit most of the people around you to support, rather than derail, your diet. "If you simply communicate the need for support, chances are people are going to provide it," says Prochaska.
8 Don't torture yourself. "Eating in a way that doesn't feel like a diet is key," says Foster. "If you just love chocolate chip cookies, you'd better find a way to work them into your diet, because it's crazy to say, `I'm never going to eat them again!'" Successful weight loss and weight maintenance are about winning the war, not each baffle. Every snack need not be a healthy snack, as long as every day is a healthy day.
9 Find a role model. You need flesh-and-blood proof that people can lose weight without being miserable, as well as practical examples of how to do it. "My daughter and daughter-in-law were terrific role models for me," says Prochaska. "I saw that they enjoyed food shopping, they enjoyed cooking, and they enjoyed eating. They introduced me to foods that tasted good and were easy to cook, so [improving my diet] was fun."
You can always find inspiration in "Success Story," a department found in nearly every issue of MEN'S FITNESS. These stories come from everyday guys like you who tried to get fit, and succeeded.
10 Get educated. Your weight-loss efforts are doomed to fail unless you actually believe they will succeed. And one thing that can strengthen your faith in yourself is solid information about what constitutes proper nutrition. Take time to learn the facts from your doctor, a nutritionist or other credible source (like this magazine, right?) before altering your eating habits. "You need to feel that you're in control of your diet and your weight-loss initiative," says Foster, "and having good information enhances that feeling of control."
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The bad news is that your diet and lifestyle probably are guilty of at least a dozen transgressions. The good news is, according to nutrition experts, you don't need to change all your habits immediately. In fact, you absolutely should not change them all at one time.
Los Angeles-based nutritionist Susan Dopart, R.D., suggests introducing one new change a week. "Start with a change that you really feel ready to make--something you know you can do--and go from there," she says. "In several weeks, those small changes will add up to a whole new lifestyle."
Below is a list of a dozen lifestyle modifications. Rank them by degree of difficulty: No. 1 will be your easiest change to make, while No. 12 is the change you feel least prepared to make today. In the next 12 weeks, carry out each of these mandates in the order you've arranged them. The whole process will prove so painless, you'll want to kick yourself for not having begun sooner.
* Replace whole-milk dairy products with low-fat dairy products.
* Add one workout to your weekly exercise regimen.
* Don't skip any meals.
* Get eight hours of sleep each night.
* Replace bad fats (e.g., french fries) with good fats (e.g., cashews).
* Eat one less restaurant meal a week.
* Eat slightly smaller portions.
* Clear all unhealthy temptations from your cupboards.
* Replace soda and/or other "snack drinks" with water.
* Eat three servings of whole grains each day.
* Eat one more daily serving of fresh fruits or vegetables.
* Learn to cook something new and healthy.
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